What I learned today:
There are no wrong decisions, only good and bad (but who really judges what is good and bad besides you).
Life is what you make of it. Truly, there is no path, but a million different trails in a giant maze. One can take as many or as few as they would like...
No map of the maze exists, you just pick a path, go down it, if it doesn't work out, either turn onto a new path, or turn around and go back.
Why do we so often forget that we are the ones who make our life what it is? It truly is our life and we can control it. If you want something, find a way to get it. If you don't like something, change it. On a daily basis I speak with those who
forget that they own their life, they make their life. They either cannot find the strength to get them to the next phase, or have been beaten into submission by external factors. This is unbelievable to me. As I wonder through life grabbing it by the horns and doing as I please going in whatever direction I feel that day, and have nothing holding me back, I don't even realize that I do it.
A dear friend comes to me and says, Sara, you need to share this secret of how to get your life back. I just wondered what kind of person would not take charge of their own life. Whether it be a new job, getting out of a bad relationship, getting into a new relationship, moving to an area you have always wanted to live, joining the peace corps to help others, everybody can do these things. What holds them back?
As long as good intentions are present, everybody should fully move forward with their dreams. Some may frown upon me for saying this, but it is your life. You have one and only one. So why not make it count? Live intensely, love intensely work intensely, love every minute of it, and if or when you stop loving it, move on.
If something better comes along, take it. Why sit around and wonder what might have been when you could be living it and learning what will be. If you make mistakes, so what? Take a step back, and reevaluate, then get back on a track, find a new one, derail, do whatever your heart desires with good intentions.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Friday, September 5, 2008
Two Paths, Which one to take?
Life can be so confusing, how do you make a decision to do one thing or choose a path that will lead you through the rest of your life?
Today I stand if front of two doors.
Behind door 1, there is a life filled with big houses, a good paying job, 2 kids, great friends and a nice convertible car. Just a hard working All-American family dream.
Behind door 2, I see a life filled with adventure, living in Central America, teaching English and learning Spanish. Volunteering to help those less fortunate, and all still holding a great job via the US that will support my daily life.
Adventurous life or all-American life?
The question looms over my head. You see, a few months ago my boyfriend of three years proposed to me . I am so excited! He wants to spend the rest of his life with me and I love him deeply. But recently I began considering what would happen to all of those crazy dreams and aspirations that I have always had? I asked him if he would be willing to take part and he got angry and claimed that nobody likes their jobs and living by the "grass is always greener" theory gets people absolutely nowhere.
So here I am, confused and wanting to search for a deeper meaning to my life. Yesterday I realized that perhaps I do not have to "search for" a deeper meaning. I began wondering, why do I feel like I need to leave to find meaning in my life? Why can't I find meaning in the all-American dream and combine it with an adventurous life? Sure it won't be as exciting, but the stability of a family and a place to call home doesn't come cheap.
So instead of coming up with several options when faced with a challenging situation, find a way to combine the two and move forward rather than sit still and stir. Stirring hurts everybody around you and makes life more confusing. So for my doors, I have decided to take an annual trip to Central America. Rather than lay on the beach, I will volunteer with the communities and get this need to help others out of my system. While I am here, I will volunteer at the animal shelter and local schools that teach English as a Second Language.
Today I stand if front of two doors.
Behind door 1, there is a life filled with big houses, a good paying job, 2 kids, great friends and a nice convertible car. Just a hard working All-American family dream.
Behind door 2, I see a life filled with adventure, living in Central America, teaching English and learning Spanish. Volunteering to help those less fortunate, and all still holding a great job via the US that will support my daily life.
Adventurous life or all-American life?
The question looms over my head. You see, a few months ago my boyfriend of three years proposed to me . I am so excited! He wants to spend the rest of his life with me and I love him deeply. But recently I began considering what would happen to all of those crazy dreams and aspirations that I have always had? I asked him if he would be willing to take part and he got angry and claimed that nobody likes their jobs and living by the "grass is always greener" theory gets people absolutely nowhere.
So here I am, confused and wanting to search for a deeper meaning to my life. Yesterday I realized that perhaps I do not have to "search for" a deeper meaning. I began wondering, why do I feel like I need to leave to find meaning in my life? Why can't I find meaning in the all-American dream and combine it with an adventurous life? Sure it won't be as exciting, but the stability of a family and a place to call home doesn't come cheap.
So instead of coming up with several options when faced with a challenging situation, find a way to combine the two and move forward rather than sit still and stir. Stirring hurts everybody around you and makes life more confusing. So for my doors, I have decided to take an annual trip to Central America. Rather than lay on the beach, I will volunteer with the communities and get this need to help others out of my system. While I am here, I will volunteer at the animal shelter and local schools that teach English as a Second Language.
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